Like most guys, I struggled a lot with women for a long time before I started to have any success. I acted, talked, and thought like a typical beta male. I was a goofy kid growing up and moved around a lot so I never had a large circle of friends. This made it difficult for me to socialize with other kids and associate with a lot of other boys my age, seeing as I did not develop the skills to build and maintain relationships until high school and after.

That’s not to say I was a total loser either. Even though I wore glasses and played too many video games, I was also very active with sports and staying fit. These were probably my saving graces, for I have a couple friends from high school and college (lesser betas and even a Dreg type). 

One particular acquaintance of mine (100% dreg) is currently a basement dwelling video game addict. His social reject status has reached legendary proportions, and it certainly doesn’t help that he’s overweight, acne prone, living with his parents, and jobless. He’s coaxed his parents into letting him live there rent-free while he cooks, cleans, and plays (or studies) video games 15+ hours every day (not counting the time watching WWE SmackDown or UFC). I visited him once since graduating college and all he wanted to do was play video games all day “like old times.” He is the epitome of loser-dom and a strong reminder of why I worked so hard to change. He had not changed, in fact his behavior had apparently gotten worse since he wasn’t working or going to school. There is no hope for him and although he sure was excited to see me, I wouldn’t be caught dead hanging out with him again outside of  future high school reunions. Even then, I’m sure I’d be talking to all the single chicks.

Another good friend of mine from high school (beta) had only slept with two women before marrying a childhood friend after committing to a long-term relationship for a few years — only to find out how incompatible they were after marrying. Sure, he had gotten “lucky” with girls a few times in high school but this guy had no game knowledge whatsoever. He comes from a very religious background, so I can hardly blame him for these shortcomings. His wife, however moved out on their 1 year anniversary and despite their families’ best efforts to keep them apart, they are still “working on it” a few years later. The worst part about this situation is this guy smart, good looking, funny, and has a well-paying job (most of the “desirable traits” most women claim to want); yet he’s getting screwed over by this chick while rarely getting any action. He unknowingly lacks the alpha characteristics necessary to attract and charm women and settled early because of his religious family’s pressure and a lack of confidence with the female species.

Update: She’s pregnant.

It’s interesting what it takes to see people that you know or knew in a different light and for what type of man they actually are. I can say that even at the most beta time in my life (playing WoW 12+ hours a day), I still thought I would transcend it at some point. Only now, armed with the knowledge of game and a working understanding of women, can I see all of the mistakes that are being made by men through them I can manage to escape a similar fate.

It certainly does not help to surround yourself with these types of guys when you are actually an alpha at heart. All throughout school and in college, I rarely even talked to girls that I wasn’t friendly with. They baffled me and I had absolutely no idea how to approach or make small talk, much less sleep with them. But, I still managed to hook up with a few girls later in college (one even turned into a short-term fuck buddy who unfortunately graduated and left not long after).

A few years later I received “The Mystery Method” as a gift, and was able to open up a few new opportunities for myself with the whole “neg” concept — but this was still all too premature because I still wasn’t mentally prepared to take the leap to alphadom. It wasn’t until my sexual revolution in Mexico did I realize my potential, thus beginning my transformation to alpha male.

I had a dry spell for a month following the Mexico trip, but during this time I came to grips with my new-found confidence and it set me on the path to sleeping with more beautiful women. The epiphany happened after I went on two first dates with girls in their mid 20s. The first, I wasn’t really all that interested in (redhead [6] and not hot enough for my standards), but the second was a skinny brunette bombshell that I had immediate chemistry with — I knew right away that she was a freak and down to fuck.

We met up for bowling and drinks (I had done away with dinner dates by this point) and not even 30 minutes into the date I already had her talking about sex. As things kicked up a notch and towards the end of our second game I made my second biggest mistake of the night — I asked if I could kiss her. She recoiled and even verbally displayed her thoughts, “Why are you asking me when you should man up and just do it.” So I went in for the kiss and she rejected me. Fucking hell. We played some more and the flirting escalated, but I was clearly tense at this point (she again made that clear to me). When I finally managed to calm down I was able to turn the situation to my advantage with a few short make-out sessions.

We left the bar and headed back down to Chinatown near the metro, where I made my biggest series of mistakes for the night.

Me: Where do you want to go?

Her: Umm, I don’t know. Shouldn’t you decide?

Me: Yeah, um… why don’t we go to Clydes?

Her: I don’t know, it’s late and a week night.

Me: (Pulling a Roissy) Why don’t you come back to my place for some of DC’s finest tap water?

Her: No, we’re not going to your place.

Me: Ok, you can give me a tour of yours then.

Her: We’re not having sex.

Me: Nope, I’ve already decided that.

By now we’re at her metro line making out for everyone to see, her train pulls up and she tells me I should go — but something told me she wanted me to make my own decision. Instead of following my instincts, I kiss her and walked away without looking back. She was basically begging for me to follow her home and fuck her brains out.

I get a text about a half an hour later, “I had a lot of fun and I’m proud I went home alone lol  ”. Instead of waiting, I text her back a few minutes later, “I had fun too, let’s hang out again soon.” A few days later I called and left a message. A week goes by and I don’t hear from here so I try to reset only because I’d thought I might still have a chance with her — but she never contacted me again.

Completely oblivious at the time to my mistakes, I beat myself up over this for a week or two. Then, I had an awakening epiphany after stumbling across a few gamer blogs online while mulling over what I had done wrong. I had been completely unaware of all the beta moves I had was making. Even though many women had still given me a chance, I continued to make blunder after blunder all leading up to this last date.

Reflecting on my mistakes and realizing that I needed to completely change my approach to women was exactly what allowed me to move forward. Thanks to that last blunder, the beast had been awakened. Now, I adapt and learn from my interactions with women every day while making more progress than I had ever thought possible by changing my thinking while adopting more alpha behaviors and characteristics.

The world is my oyster.

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