I wrote a post the other week thanking and telling a brief story of my Dad, the man who raised me. In it I explained how he took me on as his own by marrying my mother.

In the comments a frequent commenter from In Mala Fide , Ryu, said this:

Interesting

Yet by PU standards, your dad is a beta provider chump and your father is an alpha. Why should your dad have married your mom? Why not just fuck her a few times and walk out the door?

Similarly with Roosh’s dad and Roissy’s. It’s the fly in the ointment. The tiny inconsistancy that destroys the system: there is nothing new or revolutionary about PU. It’s been known for centuries. For some reason, even when men know all of its secrets, all its power, they chuck it all and get married.

Now my first reaction was to jump to the defense of my father, but outside of that I do believe there’s a reason and explanation for this inconsistency in the Gamer/Player world.

First we have to state what marriage is, and what marriage is has nothing to do with love. Love exists regardless of circumstances, if it exists. What marriage is is a social contract. Marriage does two things. For a woman it guarantees her the emotional, financial, and personal support of her husband, till death do them part. For a man it guarantees the woman is his, till death do them part.

If you look at it, men get much less, but this is why historically adultery, especially by women, is a crime. Not to long ago women were killed for it.  There was also the existence of dowries, monies paid to the husband by the bride’s family because it was understood that he was taking on a providing role for the woman.  Compared that to today where the man pays for everything and divorce rates are at an all time high.

This is the balance. Marriage yield much less for men, but because of that the law WAS on their side. If a woman cheated she was done for, sometimes literally. This protected the man’s investments, the largest of which was his children. If a woman was allowed to cheat a man could never be sure if his children were biologically his, which meant he would have no assurance that he was passing on his genes, which after survival is the second primal instinct.

Social animals like lions KILL other would-be suitors to ensure this. We as humans are “civilized” and replaced that system with marriage. Rather then tearing the throat out of all nearby suitors, now we mark our women with a ring, telling others “she is taken, fuck off”.

So what changed? Why is the new generation, my generation, so averse to marriage, where men like my father who isn’t even 30 years older then me weren’t?

Feminism.

Feminism told women to break the “bonds” of the male patriarchy. It gave women jobs, money, and power. It undermined marriage by making women no longer require men, but it didn’t abolish the practice of marriage. Now women would get married but they weren’t subservient because the social contract of marriage had been voided.

Marriage did allow men to own their wife, but not as property as feminists would lead you to believe, but as a domestic partner. She did what he wished because he gave her what she wanted. With feminism in the mix, though, she got some of what she wanted on her own, and therefore felt no reason to do what he wished. Now this wouldn’t be a problem if marriage just went away and we adapted as a society, but it didn’t.

Now what we have is a generation of women who want the benefits of marriage that their mothers had, house, home, car, comfort, but without submitting to their husband. Now my parents were on the edge of this shift. To my knowledge my mom never said she wasn’t going to serve my dad, and my dad never said he owned my mom, but the seeds planted in the 60s and 70s were sprouting.  Combine that with a changing economy that was adapting to a two income household, causing inflation, now women HAD to work.

That generation was the divorce generation. Most people I know in my age bracket come from divorced parents. I rarely meet someone in their twenties who’s parents are still together, and if they are the family is usually very conservative. My generation is now the anti-marriage generation. Women don’t want to marry because they think they don’t need to, men don’t want to marry because they know that mentality makes marriage a lose/lose situation for them.

The ones who are going to suffer from this, though, are not the men or women of my generation, but those that’ll come after us. My generation grew up in broken dysfunctional homes, the next generation will grow up without a home.

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